All I want is to be happy.
That is my truth right now. I have no desire to make sweeping declarations of what I’m going to accomplish this year. There are no SMART goals in my mind. I used to have these massive goals… I’m going to do this big race or this new distance, or lose this much weight, or save for and plan a big trip. Don’t get me wrong. All of those things are still in my head. I picture it like Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
My basic needs are met. I have shelter, food, transportation, employment. (I know that makes me lucky.) But before I can reach for those big goals that represent self-actualization (Antarctica trip, half Ironman, etc) I need to get the basic happiness back. Happiness comes from meeting those psychological needs.
Happiness to me is:
- Having good friends, a social life, and a support system.
- Feeling accomplished, appreciated, and fulfilled in my work
- Giving my time to organizations that matter to me
- Eventually, hopefully, finding love
- Taking care of & feeling good about my body & my self
- Taking part in hobbies/activities (individual or group) that I enjoy
- A sense of peace, contentedness, and enjoyment with life in general
I lost a lot of this to circumstances and depression over the last two years and it is time to bring the happiness back. I want to love my life again.
So 2014 for me is #OperationHappy!
I’m going to put in real effort to make my life a little happier this year. I’m going to get involved. I’m going to try to meet new people and establish new relationships. I’m going to reintroduce hobbies and activities I miss. I’m going to practice gratitude and optimism. I’m going to listen to my body and my heart.
Life is never going to be perfect. There will always be ups and downs. But often (and with the right kind of help) we can control a decent amount of our happiness or at the very least work towards it. The hardest thing for me will be putting myself in situations where I can meet new people and establish new friendships. That’s a little out of my comfort zone right now. I may not want to go somewhere I don’t know anyone and sometimes nothing will come from it, but it will be worth it when it does.
I’m going to post on Twitter/Instagram what I do in the name of making myself and my life happier. It can be anything from going for a run, volunteering, meeting someone new, hanging out with a friend, or just giving myself needed alone time. Happiness is often in the little daily details.
Feel free to use the hashtag #OperationHappy to share what you are doing to make your day or life happier!