Looking Back at 2013: Did I THRIVE?

by Stephanie on January 6, 2014 · 4 comments

in Goals

Before making grandiose statements about what 2014 is going to be, it makes sense to look back at what 2013 actually was.  Any future goals should have a realistic starting point.

My word for 2013 was THRIVE.  I chose it because 2012 was a crap year for me in every possible way and I wanted to do more than just survive.


In reality, thriving was a bit ambitious.  Hindsight is always 20/20 right?  Looking back on 2013 a better description of what actually happened, boiled down to one word, was EQUALIZE.

See when 2013 began things weren’t quite done going wrong in my life.  The fallout of the previous year was still occurring.  My dad was still getting sicker.  I was still gaining weight.  My relationships were still in turmoil.  Then about halfway through the year things started to even out.  My life was no longer in a free fall.  But I was in no shape to jump right in to making it all better.

There’s a concept in child and adult development that defines periods of major change followed by periods of stagnation.  This is the time when the dust settles, you adjust to the changes that have occurred, and prepare for the next changes that will take place.  The second half of 2013 was that dust settling, adjustment period.  It’s an annoying time of very little progress, but realistically it was needed.  As humans we can’t be go, go, go all the time in any direction up or down.

As part of the equalization two key things happened.  First, my weight stabilized.  I did hit my highest weight ever in April 2013 but since then I haven’t gone over that and I’ve remained within 10 lbs of that weight since. This isn’t great but maintaining for 8 months is a big improvement over gaining.  Second, my Dad made a pretty miraculous comeback from major medical hell.  The difference between when I saw him in June and then again in October was like night and day.  It could have gone very differently and I thank God every day that he is well right now.

Another big thing that helped even things out was attending Fitbloggin’.  I’m not sure the people I met there realize how huge an impact they have had on my life.  It was like finding my tribe.  A group of people so caring and supportive and with similar interests.  Their support and even just their existence over social media has made a world of difference.

So that is where I am now.  The dust has settled, I’ve had time to adjust to the changes that my life’s freefall caused, and hopefully I am ready to pick myself up and move on.

Have you dealt with periods of adjustment after major changes?  Tell me in the comments!


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Kitty January 6, 2014 at 11:30 PM

2013 was a year where I didn’t lose a whole lot of weight – 9.6 pounds. We had moved to this area in 2012 and most of 2013 was really getting settled in. I can look back at 2013 as being somewhat unsuccessful in weight loss – 9.6 pounds is not a lot to lose in a year (especially since I gained 30 pounds in 2012). On the other hand, I didn’t gain 30 pounds in 2013 and there were a lot of positive things. Also, even when things are negative (like when I regained about 10 pounds in the summer), there are lessons to be learned from the experience.


Stephanie January 7, 2014 at 9:40 PM

There are always lessons in the negative, though its a hard way to learn them. Good for you for both losing weight last year and recognizing the positive even if it is a small number!


Erin January 7, 2014 at 3:25 PM

After I had a miscarriage in 2012 I really had to emmerse myself in something else so that I didn’t end up wallowing in the pain I was feeling. It was tough but I had to make the conscious decision that I wouldn’t let it tear me down.

I’m so happy to see you write a new post!!! :))


Stephanie January 7, 2014 at 9:37 PM

Oh Erin, I’m sorry that you went through that. I’m glad you found other things to focus on, and now you have your little one almost here!


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