Love Yourself – Squash Negative Thoughts

by Stephanie on February 14, 2012 · 0 comments

in Inspiration

Valentine’s Day is all about couples.  This is not a bad thing.  Couples are great and love should be celebrated.  Yes, it’s a horribly commercial holiday created by greeting card and candy companies.  Yes, it is hard to be single and heartbroken on a day dedicated to romance (I can certainly vouch for that!).  Still, we all love the idea of love don’t we?  Just try to disagree.  Hollywood’s rom-com business will prove you wrong every time!

Whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, there’s a special couple you should be celebrating – your mind and your body.  Why?  Because they make up YOU.  Most of the time they work well together.  It’s a special relationship.  Too often though, it is also an abusive one.  Our minds can be terrible to us.  Negative thoughts are what eat away at the foundation of this relationship.  They eat away at our sense of self.  Negative thoughts about your body like “I’m not skinny enough”, “my nose is too big”, “look at me, nobody could ever love me”.  And then there are heavier thoughts.  The kind born out of depression and hopelessness.  “Life isn’t worth living”.  “I’m not strong enough”.  “It’ll never stop hurting… I’ll never be okay”.

We are all susceptible to these thoughts.  No one is immune.  The happiness, most optimistic person can be led down this path by life and circumstances.  The negative thoughts about the body are something that many deal with daily.  The heavier thoughts are often reserved for when we are experiencing unbearable heartache and grief like the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship, but can stay with us for a long time.  Those negative thoughts are not serving you.  They are hurting you.  They are keeping you down.  They are holding you back.  I hope you take those words to heart because they do not come easily to me right now.  I have been full of negative thoughts these past weeks.  I am struggling.  Perhaps you have been too.

“You move in the direction of your most dominant thoughts.”

Think about that.  Think about what your most dominant thoughts have been recently.  Are they aimed in a direction you want to go?  If not, you need to change them.  Replace the negative thoughts with positive ones.  This isn’t easy.  I can tell you from experience that you will not believe them at first.  You may have to repeat the positive thoughts to yourself over and over and over again before you start believing them.  Before they start driving out the negative thoughts.  But you can do it.  I can do it.  We just have to try.  Start by repeating them when you are feeling calm.  This will be the easiest.  It is much harder to do this when the emotions (hurt, pain, anger, whatever) are at their worst.  Try anyway.

Here are some positive thoughts to get you started.  Pick whichever ones you need right now, whichever apply to you and start driving those negative thoughts right out of your mind.

  • I am beautiful.  Just as I am.
  • I am worthy of love.
  • I am strong.  Strong enough to overcome anything.
  • What I see as flaws are what make me unique.
  • I can do this.
  • I’ll get through this.
  • I can accomplish this goal.
  • Life is worth living.

Love yourself today.

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