Embracing What I’m Not (I’m Sorry I’m Not Sorry)

by Stephanie on January 19, 2012 · 2 comments

in Random/Fun

Knowing who you are is important.  It gives you identity, purpose, confidence.  Much of our lives are spent finding out who we are.  We do this by experimenting with new things.  Determining what we like and what works for us. 

Our experiences may not lead us to a full understanding of who and what we are (not yet, anyway) but they probably have led us all to some pretty clear understandings of what we are not.  And maybe that’s equally important.   

I thought I’d share some of the things I’ve found that just aren’t me.  I won’t apologize for them.  Just as I won’t apologize for what I know I am or for not knowing at all.  Many of the things I list I’ve been interested enough in to try.  This is how I discovered they were not for me (at least not now).  So don’t be offended if you are something that I am not.  This is not a criticism in any way. 

This is really an exercise in self-awareness.  We should recognize what doesn’t work for us and what does not align with our sensibilities.  For example, I am a little enamored by people who do yoga.  They seem so calm, centered, at peace.  I want those things!  But I do not enjoy yoga.  So, I would rather accept the fact that I am not a yogi (see below for that revelation!) and find my own path to centered peace than continually beat my head against a wall trying to be something I am not. 

In the words of some other bloggers I’ve seen, “I’m sorry I’m not sorry”.  I am both what I am and what I am not.  I am what I strive to be and what I’m trying to learn about myself.  So here goes…

I’m Sorry I’m Not Sorry:

  • I am not a vegetarian or a vegan.

 I’ve experimented with both and with vegan and vegetarian foods.  I’m all for more fruits and veggies, but this Wisconsin girl will not be giving up brats and cheese.

  • I am not a health food enthusiast.

I’m not interested in buying almond flour, agave nectar, flaxseed, butternut squash, or kale.  In some cases (I’m looking at you wheat germ!) I don’t like the flavor.  In some cases (agave nectar) I don’t care to experiment with the instructions for using them.  In others cases I don’t make or seek out enough recipes that call for them and they sit in my pantry forever or go bad (hello lesser-known veggies!).  I know, I’ve seen it happen!

  • I am not a yogi.

I wanted to be.  All flexible and toned and at peace.  The problem is that yoga does not make me feel peaceful.  It makes me feel inadequate for not being able to clear my mind and it makes me edgy because the moves are so slow.  I’d rather have the pounding of my legs on the pavement or the slapping of my arms in the pool.  I crave impact.  I want to move.

  • I am not a morning exerciser.

If it’s the only possible way to fit in a workout I’ll get up (this happens about 10 times per year, maybe).  I’ll even do “morning” long runs on the weekend at 8 or 9 AM.  Otherwise I hit my stride in the late afternoon/evening and that’s when I feel my best.

  • I am not a sparkly pink girl.

I think the coordinated outfits, makeup, and sparkly headbands are cute.  They’re just not me.

  • I am not the kind to fall in love or move on quickly

I’ve never fallen in love with anyone who wasn’t first a close friend.  I don’t like people or crush on guys (not even when I was younger).  When I do fall, I fall hard and I stay there for a long time.  It makes moving on incredibly hard which I find some people do not understand.

  • I am not a college basketball or NBA fan.

I loved playing basketball growing up.  I bet I’d still love playing it if I had somewhere to do so.  I can’t stand watching it though!

  • I do not promote cutting out food groups

“Everything in moderation, even moderation.”  I believe, assuming no allergies, you can be healthy without restrictions.  I’ve tried different restrictions and I feel, for me, that it lessens my joy.


What are you unapologetically NOT?

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

kristen January 19, 2012 at 10:07 AM

I’m with you on the health food enthusiast. Kombucha? That stuff is expensive! (though I’d probably try it once) Almond flour? Also expensive and since I have 2 celiacs in my family, I’m going to eat my gluten and feel grateful about it.

I am NOT someone who cares about how many page views I get or how many people read my blog. I like to write and I like to blog and I’m not going to worry too much about how many people are commenting or reading.

I am NOT going to go gaga over your pictures of oatmeal or smoothies.

Food groups are good for us. I definitely agree with your moderation in moderation :)


Stephanie January 19, 2012 at 12:59 PM

Thanks for sharing! I like food pics but making it look good is more work than I normally want to do when I’m hungry!


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