Putting My Fears in Perspective

by Stephanie on July 7, 2011 · 2 comments

in Blogging

This is my first post as a member of Fitness Blog World and I’m pretty excited about it! It’s a group of fitness and healthy living bloggers that write posts on a shared topic about once every two weeks. Today’s topic is fear.

I’m afraid. It’s true. There are lots of things I fear. Spiders. Death. Being alone. Those are pretty basic. I want to talk about other fears.

I wrote a post recently on my fears related to blogging. Those are big ones for me right now as I delve into this new world and try to find my voice. What if no one cares what I have to say?  What if I can’t inspire and connect with anyone?  What if I’m just sending my thoughts out into cyberspace to be lost and forgotten forever?

Then I have a whole set of fears related to my fitness and weight loss goals.  What if I never reach that goal weight/jean size?  What if I train and train and train and never achieve the race times I want?  What if I can’t complete an Olympic triathlon without dying?  What if I can’t live up to these high expectations I have for myself??

What all these ‘what ifs’ boil down to is a fear of failing.  A sometimes debilitating fear that I am not good enough.  That I am not capable.

That is stop-me-in-my-tracks scary.

So what’s a girl to do?

I try to put my fear, and my goals (which can be quite ambitious), into perspective.  I use these goals I set for myself and my corresponding fears of failing to push myself to be better.  Falling short of the specific goal rarely means no progress has been made and this is really important for me to remember in order to keep my spirits up.  If I only make one or two new friends through blogging.  If I only lose 30 lbs instead of 60.  If I run farther or more often but not faster.  These are not failures.  I’m still better off than I was before I set out to do these things.

It’s all in the way you look at things.

Plus, there’s this quote from that Mandy Moore movie Chasing Liberty that has stuck for years, which is impressive since it was a pretty forgettable movie.

“So if you’re scared, why do it?”

“Because the things you’re scared of are usually the most worthwhile.”

Doesn’t that just make you want to be brave and  face your fears??

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Chad Marano July 8, 2011 at 1:38 PM

Hi Stephanie, thank you for having the courage to talk about fear and where it shows up for you. As a fitness coach I am often faced with that little voice that tells me I’m not good enough or my posts aren’t helping anyone. The hardest part was realizing my true value. My true value to myself and others. We all have individual qualities that are very special. Used correctly we can help a lot of people in big ways and small ways. The most important thing for me to remember is that the negative thinking is just that. I have the opportunity to see my fear and with courage I can walk through it. 99 out of 100 times overcoming the fear was totally worth it and very freeing.

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Stephanie July 8, 2011 at 2:52 PM

I totally agree Chad. Overcoming fear brings with it a fantastic feeling of freedom and accomplishment. Negative thoughts can be so hard to ignore but you just can’t let them stop you from moving forward. :)

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