What We Tell Ourselves VS What We Do

by Stephanie on July 23, 2014 · 0 comments

in Goals

I read an article posted in a Facebook group yesterday afternoon.  In typical internet fashion the title was super catchy:  The 60 Second Guide to Learning the Awful Truth About Yourself.

Doesn’t that sound like the kind of article you want to read?  I’m not sure I would have except it was recommended by someone I respect.  The article has you go through what amounts to a coaching exercise where you write down what you did the day before (minus sleeping, eating, getting ready, etc), five things that are most important to you, and compare them.

The idea is that the list of what is important to you is only what you tell yourself.  What you actually spend your time on is what’s really important to you.  

The article takes a pretty negative view, assuming that most people’s lists will be way out of sync.  If people think “that’s not fair, yesterday I was exhausted but I’m not always like that!” then it says to look at the last week or longer.  Obviously we all have days where we are too tired to do much or we spend the day with Netflix and ice cream.  There’s nothing wrong with that.  The week-long analysis may provide a better truth, or it will show you where your time is going and maybe why you haven’t seen improvements in certain areas.  I do appreciate that the article has no judgment whatsoever on what your values actually are.  Is having fun the most important thing to you?  Great!  That was probably my biggest one when I was in my mid-20s!  These things will change throughout your life.

I did the exercise while reading the article.  Here’s what I wrote down:

Monday 7/21/14

  • 8:00-4:30   Work
  • 4:30-5:30   Worked out (swam) with a friend
  • 5:30-7:30   Cooked dinner, watched TV, read blogs, blogged
  • 7:30-8:30   Call with Life Coach
  • 8:30-9:30   Video Chatted/Talked to my parents
  • 9:30 – 10:30  Conference call for work

What’s Important to Me

  1. Family – being close to them
  2. Friends – creating & maintaining good relationships, being there for people, socializing
  3. Health & Fitness – improving myself through training, weight loss, healthy eating and other practices
  4. Career – continuing to advance, doing excellent work
  5. Spirituality – improving my relationship with God & working on inner peace, possibly serving others and the Church


When I compared my lists what I found was like a pat on the back.  Right now I’m doing pretty darn good.  My actions are reflecting what I deem important.  I looked back at the last couple of weeks and it looked about the same.  Most days I work out and try to eat healthy. Most days I talk to some member of my family and either see or talk to at least one friend.  Just three months ago my daily activities list would have looked a lot different.  For the last two years my lists wouldn’t have been in sync.   This showed me that the hard work I’ve been doing is heading me in the right direction.  Thats…nice.

There are definitely areas where I could improve.  I’m thinking about how I can incorporate a few things more regularly.  That’s the purpose of the exercise, even if the article doesn’t stress that.  This can be a tool you use to gauge whether you are on the right path.  You could use it to find the 30-60 minutes a day you need to fit in exercise or take up a new hobby.  It could help you determine why you aren’t reaching your goals.

Some people may get defensive about an exercise like this and I understand why.  It should never be used as a way to say “see??  you’re bad!  you use your time horribly!”.  That’s missing the point and misusing the information.  I think exercises like this one can provide useful insight if you are examining yourself and your life.  That’s coming from someone deep in a season of self-reflection and personal development though!

What do you think of this exercise?  



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